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The important thing to understand is that you may be overthinking more than you realize, not just in your relationships. 

Overthinking is mostly an unconscious pattern. It is important to have a counter strategy to your overall habit of overthinking itself; one that puts you more in control.

The rest of this post will give you specific methods to help you stop overthinking relationships.

 

 

How To Stop Overthinking Relationships

Use these 3 awarenesses to stop overthinking relationships.

 

how to stop overthinking relationshipsIdentify What Is Unresolved 

How to stop overthinking relationships

One reason your mind may be returning to a particular relationship over and over again is that your subconscious mind is trying to work something out.

Something is incomplete, unresolved, or doesn’t feel right. 

This message is being brought to your conscious mind in the form of repetitive thoughts about a past or future interaction with a person or something about the relationship in general. 

To identify what is unresolved, ask yourself some very specific questions like: 

What questions do I have? 
What isn’t perfect yet? 
What is incomplete? 
What is unresolved in this relationship or in a past experience or expected future experience with them? 

Write down your answers and keep doing this until it becomes clear what’s bothering you or is incomplete. 

 

 

how to stop overthinking relationshipsGet The Lesson    

how to stop overthinking relationships

Once you know what’s unresolved in a relationship (at the unconscious level) you are half-way home.

Now the question is “what has to happen for this to be resolved or complete?”

You’re looking for a main lesson or insight here. To get to it, hold the idea of what’s incomplete or unresolved in your mind and ask yourself a set of pointed questions. 

 

Ask yourself: (Regarding the relationship, situation, specific experience in the past or future) 

What do I need to learn from this situation?
What will make me feel good about this experience / relationship?
What do I need to do in order to make this right?
What is my part in this experience, interaction, or relationship?
How am I contributing to this situation?
What do I want in this interaction or relationship?
What will make this right in my mind and heart?
What will protect my self-esteem, help me achieve my outcome, and take into account the response of the other person? 

Keep asking these questions until a ‘lesson’, learning, or insight comes to you. 

 

 

Communicate To Attain Resolution     

how to stop overthinking relationships

The final step is to attain resolution.

You can gain resolution in two ways:

First, determine specifically what you want to do different. Do this by imagining the past or future situation and replaying it in way that you act differently and better.

For example, if you were too critical, replay the scene and see yourself not criticizing at all, etc.

In other words – Identify what you want to do differently and imagine doing it in the situation.

Do this for a little while and if you feel complete – you’re done.

The second way to get completion & resolution is to communicate to the person. 

Stop guessing and communicate to them. Stop thinking about it and communicate to them. Stop imagining a past or future interaction and talk to them. Stop talking to yourself about it and talk to them about it. 

Think about the best way to communicate before you reach out to them. Avoid any blame or defensiveness. Be as elegant and respectful as you possibly can. Speak about your concern, your feelings, your experience. And listen to them.

You’ll be surprised how incredibly effective this is and how quickly it can bring a sense of completion or understanding. 

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Disclaimer:
This post is for educational purposes only. Nothing in this post constitutes advice, therapy or counseling. The reader accepts total and complete responsibility for any and all actions they may or may not take as a result of reading this post.

Overthinking is a massive problem in our society. 

This is because western culture has made a "False God" of reason.

Our entire educational system is obsessed with analysis to the exclusion of intuitive understanding, creative right brain processes, and insight. 

The irony is that true critical thinking actually has a FEEL to it. 

You should be surprised if you do NOT overthink. It is highly unusual in a culture that is so inundated with overthinking and over analyzing. 

The danger is that overthinking easily turns into negative thinking.

Before you know it, you've picked up a pattern of being hypercritical, negative, fault-finding, blaming, condemning, and most of all COMPLAINING. 

Complaining is a disease in our culture.

Complaining manifests MORE of what you're complaining about because when you complain, you're putting your attention on what you do not want. 

The result of all of this is a massive epidemic of depression, anger, hostility, stress, insomnia, anxiety, and the inability to truly relax.

Feelings of genuine peace, joy, bliss, happiness, enthusiasm, and equanimity are all but inaccessible when thinking has become OVER thinking.

But there is a solution.

You can learn to interrupt overthinking by learning some simple patterns and integrating some genuine Right Brain Activities into your lifestyle.

Learn how with the Stop Overthinking Online Course

 

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It will give you immediate relief from the strain of overthinking any particular situation or subject. Click on the image at left or on The 3-Step Formula That Stops Overthinking in Its Tracks to download your free report.

The important thing to understand is that you may be overthinking more than you realize, not just in your relationships. 

Overthinking is mostly an unconscious pattern. It is important to have a counter strategy to your overall habit of overthinking itself; one that puts you more in control.

 

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